![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
xianeUnless you're a musician-type friend of mine, or you're running a meme/sensitive-type post thing, I will be defriending all people who auto-screen comments from friends as I find them.
There's a thin veil of implication of trust when I add someone to my friends list. I *want* their opinions and I'm neither ashamed of them nor nervous to get them. When the same courtesy isn't extended back, we're not friends. I don't need and I don't want anyone in my life that can't stand up to my opinions and thoughts.
You don't have to like this policy; feel free to remove me if it bothers you. I'm not hammering down on obvious and called-for uses of the screen function, I'm talking about people who consistently screen comments after the fact [and hide posts after the fact] when a friend makes a point that they don't like.
If you want to do that, that's fine, it's your journal and you're obviously free to do so. But I find that someone hiding my words for any other reason than to protect everyone in a sensitive situation, or for fun guessing memes, isn't a game I want to play... so I'm pulling the plug.
* If you aren't friended by me, your comments are auto-screened to prevent spamming. I'll reveal 'em as I get 'em. But if you aren't friended by me, and I know you and know you have a journal, there's probably a good reason why I haven't added you. Take that for what you will. LJ isn't a popularity contest for me, it's just frickin' LJ.
I'm not playing these bullshit games.
[edit] - Just to be clear: passive-aggressive screening/deleting is what I'm talking about.
There's a thin veil of implication of trust when I add someone to my friends list. I *want* their opinions and I'm neither ashamed of them nor nervous to get them. When the same courtesy isn't extended back, we're not friends. I don't need and I don't want anyone in my life that can't stand up to my opinions and thoughts.
You don't have to like this policy; feel free to remove me if it bothers you. I'm not hammering down on obvious and called-for uses of the screen function, I'm talking about people who consistently screen comments after the fact [and hide posts after the fact] when a friend makes a point that they don't like.
If you want to do that, that's fine, it's your journal and you're obviously free to do so. But I find that someone hiding my words for any other reason than to protect everyone in a sensitive situation, or for fun guessing memes, isn't a game I want to play... so I'm pulling the plug.
* If you aren't friended by me, your comments are auto-screened to prevent spamming. I'll reveal 'em as I get 'em. But if you aren't friended by me, and I know you and know you have a journal, there's probably a good reason why I haven't added you. Take that for what you will. LJ isn't a popularity contest for me, it's just frickin' LJ.
I'm not playing these bullshit games.
[edit] - Just to be clear: passive-aggressive screening/deleting is what I'm talking about.
![[identity profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/openid.png){kind=small}
no subject
2006-04-13 19:43 (UTC)I remember trying to make filters once, because I had two pretty separate groups of friends and I didn't think I wanted to bore one with tales of the other. Then I don't think I ever used those, or if I did, it was only for a really short time.
At any rate, it's for the same reason behind why I have had a lot of buddies on my AIM list and why I use the same screenname on all the forums I join: I'm the same person, everywhere I go. The opinions don't change, and I stand behind everything I say. If I embarass myself with something, I'm okay with that being pretty clear to people, and apologizing for it where necessary. (And I've made an ass out of myself more than once in LJ.)
I don't think I've ever deleted a comment off of my journal. I never understood how screening worked. I only tend to post ramblings that I want comments on, ramblings other people actively want to see, or "venting" that I trust to those whose LJs I've friended. And if they want to call me on acting like an idiot, even when I'm just ranting my head off, then I welcome the repartee.
So, yeah. I keep it simple. And open. And long as shit, without an LJ-cut to speak of. =D