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xianeAt Coyote [where I work, for those of you who somehow don't know], we get in all sorts of things for consignment sale. Recently, we got a huge bag of books, and I've been ransacking volumes to cure my hours of customer-less boredom while on the job.
Today I found a small volume that seems perfect for some diversion in my journal. It's called The Book Of Questions, by Gregory Stock, Ph.D. The basic premise of the book is that it asks situational questions of the reader, and your job is to truthfully assess your answers, and possibly start discussions with the questions amongst your friends. There are questions concerning integrity, sex, morals, and personal choices.
I thought bringing some of these questions to my journal for discussion or analyzing by my friends might be interesting. If it appeals to you, please feel free to *truthfully* respond. If you feel uncomfortable with your answers, maybe you might discuss privately in your journal...?
I like self-analyzing.
Some of the questions are dated - the book came out in the late 80's - and some of them won't have much impact on most of my friends. But some of them might give you food for thought. Maybe.
Today's question :
If your friends and aquaintances were willing to bluntly and honestly tell you what they really thought of you, would you want them to?
Add to that at will, for more discussion fodder -
Do you think your friends would agree with one other about the kind of person you are? How much energy do you spend doing things to favourably impress other people? If you were completely unconcerned about what others would think, what sorts of things might you do? How do you feel when you people like you because they think you are someone that you're not?
I'll answer my own questions in a reply.
Today I found a small volume that seems perfect for some diversion in my journal. It's called The Book Of Questions, by Gregory Stock, Ph.D. The basic premise of the book is that it asks situational questions of the reader, and your job is to truthfully assess your answers, and possibly start discussions with the questions amongst your friends. There are questions concerning integrity, sex, morals, and personal choices.
I thought bringing some of these questions to my journal for discussion or analyzing by my friends might be interesting. If it appeals to you, please feel free to *truthfully* respond. If you feel uncomfortable with your answers, maybe you might discuss privately in your journal...?
I like self-analyzing.
Some of the questions are dated - the book came out in the late 80's - and some of them won't have much impact on most of my friends. But some of them might give you food for thought. Maybe.
Today's question :
If your friends and aquaintances were willing to bluntly and honestly tell you what they really thought of you, would you want them to?
Add to that at will, for more discussion fodder -
Do you think your friends would agree with one other about the kind of person you are? How much energy do you spend doing things to favourably impress other people? If you were completely unconcerned about what others would think, what sorts of things might you do? How do you feel when you people like you because they think you are someone that you're not?
I'll answer my own questions in a reply.
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2004-05-10 13:30 (UTC)I don’t want to hear what acquaintances have to say but friends in moderation is fine. I think that if they were true friends they wouldn’t have that many bad things to say in the first place.
Do you think your friends would agree with one other about the kind of person you are?
No. I am the same person but they are all different types of people and their interpretation of me is going to be different. That is why some people really understand me and others don’t care about me.
How much energy do you spend doing things to favorably impress other people?
I don’t exert too much energy. If I am going out to a good club I might spend more time on myself. After and encounter with people I always wonder if I offended them in something I said. I tend to say things and people tend to take them the wrong way.
If you were completely unconcerned about what others would think, what sorts of things might you do?
I would say what I really want to say. But I am not one to run around messing up peoples days. I think the way we treat each other is very important. Perhaps my being unconcerned with others would allow me to be an asshole when I want to be.
How do you feel when people like you because they think you are someone that you're not?
It pisses me off. I don’t like when people make assumptions about who I am. They don’t have that right and perhaps they should really get to know me. I’m not saying that they can’t like me…that is okay. But if they don’t like me for the real reasons then I don’t have much respect. I guess I could try to make them understand…but that gets real old real fast.