touching base.

[xiane]

The funeral is today. We've been pretty busy, helping out Rob's mom and the family, doing all the duties one does in this situation. Rob's Dad, Doug, has made quite an impact on the world around him, judging by the amount and variety of people who came to the Visitation last night. There were flower arrangements from several classes, including the Classes of 77, 80, 85, and 90. There were more than that, but the sheer amount of flowers makes it hard to remember the details right now. I'll be helping to categorize everything after the fact, so I guess I'll know then.
Doug was a teacher for thirty years, in Blacksburg, South Carolina. Many of the people who came knew him first from being his student, then as an adult in daily life. Many, many people said to Rob and I that he would just stop by to say hello. He was always pretty quiet with me - he's make an effort, but he didn't know me that well yet. I was really pleased to hear from many people that he was really proud of Rob, and he had told many, many of them about our wedding. I had been afraid that the quietness had hid some disapproval, but I forgot that he believed in Rob so much. He knew Rob would do the right thing. It was evident in each and every testimony.

Today we'll go pay tribute, then we'll go back and help his mom out again. Please, if you can, think about them. This was sudden and unexpected, and they'll need all the good thoughts they can get.

And if you can, could you also spare a few good thoughts for boadiccea? She's been having some *serious* health issues and I'm worried for her.
And then... tell someone you love them. And do something good for yourself, too.

Love.

Comments

[onceupon.livejournal.com]

*HUUUUUUUG*

That's for both of you.

[crossbonesdj.livejournal.com]

i love you.

[jukebox-heroine.livejournal.com]

♥

never easy

[alannakitty.livejournal.com]

I really would like to be able to send a sympathy card so if you could send me an address whether yours and you forward it to his mom... that's fine whatever. Email is alannakitty(at)earthlink(dot)net. I thought about calling you but I figured you had your hands full and didn't need to be worrying about your phone ringing off the hook. My thoughts are definately with you and the family. Losing a family memember is never easy but it is especially hard when it is unexpected. You have been through losing a parent and therefore know exactly where Rob is at. Times like these as difficult as they are; are a realization of the love and committement you made to one another. This is what marriage is all about. Being there through the good and the bad. It is a tragic event no doubt but at least you have each other and his family has your love and support as well. Thank you for updating and letting us know the status of everything. *hugs*

Re: never easy

[alannakitty.livejournal.com]

The link didn't work... this was part of the error msg... "HTTP Error 403 -Forbidden Internet Explorer "

[6-and-66.livejournal.com]

I lost my mother very suddenly June 2005.
I just want you to know my heart goes out to you, and Rob and his family.

[hecatemacbeth.livejournal.com]

Please hug Rob like you wouldn't believe, for me.
Then, put your arms around yourself and squeeze tightly.
Then, have him do the same. :)

[brokenme85.livejournal.com]

i'll be thinking of all of you! i'm sorry to hear the news... but i'm sure Rob and the rest of your new family are relieved to have someone so strong helping them through this.

i love you!! ::HUG::

[redzshadow.livejournal.com]

Love to you, Rob, and his mom! *hugs*

[ispokethewords.livejournal.com]

You, Rob and your family are in my thoughts. Everyone at work keeps asking about you too!

[nocturnaleye.livejournal.com]

Wow...I'm just catching up here since I've been sick all week. I'm sorry that Rob lost his Dad. It's never really a good time to lose a loved one, but it's good that he has you out there with him now.

[ismene.livejournal.com]

My condolences to you, Rob, and his family.