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xianeMy friends are creative, brash, opinionated, loud, amazing people. They have many different ways of handling things and often aren't afraid to put that in your face. I respect that. I also respect the right of everyone to do things in their own way, even if it differs from my own. And I respect your right to feel differently about *that* too. I am a lot more moderate in the way I handle things than a lot of my friends are. That's just how I am. I don't expect them to be the same.
Being passionate about something you care about is a hallmark of those I want in my circle of friends. I don't expect you all to get along. I certainly would fall over in surprise if we all agreed on things.
Everyone I've disagreed with knows damn well what I think, because I talked to them calmly and politely about it. They have every right to argue and pick apart what I think... I'd just appreciate it if they'd do so WITH ME. Okay? If you think I'm a fuck up or an ass-kisser or a sycophant or an asshole, it would be a fuck of a lot more effective to come tell me about it.
Touching on an ongoing issue - The Dawning: I am no saint. I fucked up plenty in how I handled things there. I tried my best to make everyone happy without compromising my stand on things. Sometimes I had to do things that I didn't personally like, because the good of the club night came before my personal opinions. That includes sometimes losing money on bands [often which came out of my own pocket], spinning music I didn't like, dealing with certain arrogant DJs and bands, allowing certain people who I personally dislike to attend... I did it because the end result was worth it *to me* and to the community. I felt that it was a part of my responsibility to compromise, because The Dawning was *never* MY CLUB. It was managed by me, but it belonged to the community. I'd like to think that my love for the music and the idea behind it all showed, and that's why people throw comparisons to me out there. I dunno. I don't want to be on a pedestal; I certainly don't deserve it.
That being said, people run club nights/start events for different reasons and in various ways. Everyone's got their own style and that's cool by me. Sometimes it feels like it works to me and sometimes not, but everybody's got to do it in their own way. It would be nice if everyone thought like me - no, it wouldn't. It would be fuck-all boring.
I wouldn't go to Sacrosanct, Alchemy, Telekon, Funeral Drive, or Cryptkicker and expect The Dawning. They're different animals, with their own styles. Not everyone likes all of those places. That's okay. You don't like how one night goes, there's always another. I wouldn't expect you to keep your opinions to yourself, and I'm not asking for that. But it would be awesome to see people not rip apart other peoples' efforts. Futile hope, that, so I'll just continue to try and support everyone's events and grin happily when others do the same. My style has been to try to lead by example, get everyone involved - that's how I feel about stuff. You don't have to feel the same, and you can tell me I'm wrong all you like, okay?
I got carried away with this. I just hate seeing everyone fight, instead of banding together to make things more interesting, make bigger things happen. I know that's a faint hope, sometimes. But I'll be supporting everything I can, living up to my words to the best of my ability.
Being passionate about something you care about is a hallmark of those I want in my circle of friends. I don't expect you all to get along. I certainly would fall over in surprise if we all agreed on things.
Everyone I've disagreed with knows damn well what I think, because I talked to them calmly and politely about it. They have every right to argue and pick apart what I think... I'd just appreciate it if they'd do so WITH ME. Okay? If you think I'm a fuck up or an ass-kisser or a sycophant or an asshole, it would be a fuck of a lot more effective to come tell me about it.
Touching on an ongoing issue - The Dawning: I am no saint. I fucked up plenty in how I handled things there. I tried my best to make everyone happy without compromising my stand on things. Sometimes I had to do things that I didn't personally like, because the good of the club night came before my personal opinions. That includes sometimes losing money on bands [often which came out of my own pocket], spinning music I didn't like, dealing with certain arrogant DJs and bands, allowing certain people who I personally dislike to attend... I did it because the end result was worth it *to me* and to the community. I felt that it was a part of my responsibility to compromise, because The Dawning was *never* MY CLUB. It was managed by me, but it belonged to the community. I'd like to think that my love for the music and the idea behind it all showed, and that's why people throw comparisons to me out there. I dunno. I don't want to be on a pedestal; I certainly don't deserve it.
That being said, people run club nights/start events for different reasons and in various ways. Everyone's got their own style and that's cool by me. Sometimes it feels like it works to me and sometimes not, but everybody's got to do it in their own way. It would be nice if everyone thought like me - no, it wouldn't. It would be fuck-all boring.
I wouldn't go to Sacrosanct, Alchemy, Telekon, Funeral Drive, or Cryptkicker and expect The Dawning. They're different animals, with their own styles. Not everyone likes all of those places. That's okay. You don't like how one night goes, there's always another. I wouldn't expect you to keep your opinions to yourself, and I'm not asking for that. But it would be awesome to see people not rip apart other peoples' efforts. Futile hope, that, so I'll just continue to try and support everyone's events and grin happily when others do the same. My style has been to try to lead by example, get everyone involved - that's how I feel about stuff. You don't have to feel the same, and you can tell me I'm wrong all you like, okay?
I got carried away with this. I just hate seeing everyone fight, instead of banding together to make things more interesting, make bigger things happen. I know that's a faint hope, sometimes. But I'll be supporting everything I can, living up to my words to the best of my ability.
